You’re only three years old, and at this point in your life you can't read, much less understand what I’m going to try to tell you in this letter. But I've been thinking a lot about the life that you have ahead
of you, about my life so far as I reflect
on what I've learned, and about my role as a dad in trying to prepare you for the trials
that you will face in the coming years.
You won't be able to understand this letter today, but someday, when you're ready, I hope you will find some wisdom
and value in what I share with you.
For this, be thankful. You are at a wonderful stage of life. You have many wonderful stages of life still to come, but they are not without their costs and perils
I hope to help you along your path by sharing some of the best of what I've learned. As with any advice, take it with a grain of salt. What works for me might not work for you.
There will be people in your life who won't be very nice. They'll tease
you because you're different, or for no good reason. They might try to bully
you or hurt you.
There's not much you can do about these people except to learn to deal with them, and learn to choose friends who are kind to you, who actually care about you, who make you feel good about yourself. When you find friends like this, hold on to them, treasure
them, spend time with them, be kind to them, love them.
There will be times when you are met with disappointment instead of success. Life won't always turn out the way you want. This is just another thing you'll have to learn to deal with. But instead of letting these things get you down, push on. Accept disappointment and learn to persevere
, to pursue
your dreams despite pitfalls
. Learn to turn negatives into positives, and you'll do much better in life.
You will also face heartbreak and abandonment
by those you love. I hope you don't have to face this too much, but it happens. Again, not much you can do but to heal
, and to move on with your life. Let these pains become stepping stones
to better things in life, and learn to use them to make you stronger.
But Be Open to life Anyway
Yes, you'll find cruelty
and suffering in your journey through life … but don't let that close you to new things. Don't retreat from life, don't hide or wall yourself off. Be open to new things, new experiences, new people.
You might get your heart broken 10 times, but find the most wonderful woman the 11th time. If you shut yourself off from love, you'll miss out on that woman, and the happiest times of your life.